For both Ladies and Dudes, expensive engagement rings, what do you think?
I am a woman but I think that when girls ask for expensive engagement rings is just stupid, I have a friend who made her future to be hubby pay 17 thousand for her ring, what is with the selfishness and shallowness?!
Ladies why would you ask for something that exceeds few hundred bucks? and dudes what do you think about this issue?
Engagement rings can get quite expensive and many people focus more on buying one that will impress people rather than remembering that it is supposed to be a symbol of commitment and love between a man and woman.
When I got engaged, I told my wife I had enough money for a down payment on a house or for an engagement ring, but not both. She quickly told me to buy the house and I did. She went without an engagement ring until our 20th anniversary, when I surprized her with one that cost 25k, which I could now afford to buy.
Everything is relative to what a person wants, values, etc. If an expensive ring makes someone happy and there’s enough money to buy it – why not do so? It’s only when other agendas are present (trying to impress people, etc) that things can get a bit out of hand.
Hope this helps!
Women don’t ASK for engagement rings. A man proposes and he presents her with a ring that he purchased. He buys what he can safely afford.
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I don’t think the price of it should be the issue. As long as the women likes it; after all she will most likely keep it for the rest of her life. If the man buys an expensive ring, if she asks for an expensive ring it’s ultimately their business and no one elses. I have no issue with it. Everyone is different and there is no sense judging someone over it.
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If the guy can afford it, why not? He either gives it to me or another woman will come along and will get it.
Its just like buying a car. If the guy can afford a Mercedes why should he be driving a Kia.
Now if the guy cannot afford an expensive ring and the girl insists, then you don’t call that love.
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wow that could have been a down payment on there home they would have brought together, i agree a few hundred bucks is enough for a wedding ring, it not the amount you spend but the thought and care you put into finding just the right one
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It is the business of that couple and no one else.
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Well I wouldn’t pay 17K for an engagement ring if I had a billion dollars. I can go forward to tell you that anyone who would pay this for an engagement ring is either a millionare with money to burn or someone who will be broke shortly, and probably not married.
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No number of thumbs down will change my mind on this one guys, you just have to accept it.
If my husband had bought me a 17 thousand dollar engagement ring I would have been pleased and very very very very alarmed. We could use that kind of cash to put toward a house or something else.
If we were millionaires maybe sure why not, I guess… but spending money you can barely afford on a ring means less money towards things that will actually matter in your life together. I feel the same about huge crazy weddings. It’s the MARRIAGE that is important not a celebration, not a ring, none of that.
I think some people get caught up on the idea that the ring symbolizes their love and commitment, sure it can as flowers symbolize fertility and all that stuff, but if you take that far too seriously you are stacking carats up to measure how great your spouse’s love is. Then you are stuck with the idea that if the ring isn’t the most expensive glorious thing than you just don’t mean that much to him. Completely unfair to both of you.
It really doesn’t help we are bombarded by it everywhere we look. What’s one of the first things people ask when you say he popped the question? They want to see the rock.
If he has the cash though is there an issue with him dropping it on a ring?
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I don’t think the price of my engagement ring matters. I didn’t never ask my husband to get me a certain ring with a certain price, that’s stupid. My husband bought me a very beautiful ring that did cost a pretty penny but I did not ask how much it cost, he chose to tell me it cost a lot because he believes i’m priceless and I deserve the best but I wouldn’t let him tell me how much because I didn’t care to know, its the meaning behind the ring the marriage that matters.
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I don’t know how much my fiance actually paid for my ring but I have a good idea of what it’s worth. I didn’t ask for this ring and had no expectations of anything nearly as large as what I got. I would have been just as happy with something much smaller. It was entirely his decision to buy me this ring and it was paid for in cash so we incurred no debt as a result of the purchase.
I think it’s wrong for a woman to demand an expensive ring. But if he can afford it and wants to buy something extravagant then that’s their business.
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I wouldn’t. I’d rather have a bare finger and a comfortable life and happy family than a giant rock with nothing to show for it.
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Going on 3 years and still no ring but we are almost entirely debt free!
I honestly like what the ring symbolizes and not what it costs. if he got the ring for 100 dollars I would not care. Rings are just a symbol not sure why its such a status thing. Its selfish to make someone pay big for something I might lose. I want to get a tatoo on my ring finger with my mans name in cursive or something. something original. i don’t have any tatoos and neither does my man so it would be nice to get something meaningful that should symbolize forever and tatoos are pretty permanent.. more than a ring anyways
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I could give a crap about the ring. I don’t even have an engagement ring. Don’t want one. I’m outdoors a lot, working with my horses or fishing, and don’t want to lose it…and at work I don’t want one to get ruined.
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I got PRESENTED with a fifty thousand dollar ring and then the kids helped him pick out a even more beautiful wedding ring worth even more money.. they all say I’m worth it… I have a hundred thousand dollar bracelet he PRESENTED to me at the Play Boy Jazz Festival and for a Valentine’s Day gift I got a Jag and for Christmas one year I got PRESENTED a three hundred dollar benz… & I didn’t ask for any of it… we work as a team in our household… we work very hard and our vacations are the best… I’ve bought him two classic cars of his choice… we are just enjoying life
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The cost of the ring guarantees zero. And if the marriage never happens, the lady MUST by law return it. That is because the courts see the ring as a contractually agreement yet to be signed, until the marriage is official. You don;t get to keep the ring if the marriage never takes place. 17 grand buys a lot of education, health insurance, a few movies, butter popcorn, and some down payment on a condo.
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the more expensive the ring the quicker the marriage will fail….marriages based on material items do not last
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Some people are more materialistic then others. I’d shoot my hubby if he got me a ring that cost that much. I can find a lot more and better things to buy for $17K then to waste it on one ring.
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I think something timeless and classic, a true symbol of love is enough. Even just a band is good enough. I think asking for a big engagement ring you will get whats coming. A lot of bling with no real substance and a marriage on such shaky foundations usually dont last. Obviously some men just really want to get a huge flashy ring and thats his choice but I would never ask for it or expect it.
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I told mine that I did not want one and we put that money up to build our house. Same with the big wedding and the honeymoon. We built our house two years later.
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I have an enormous engagement ring. It was paid for in cash, and we didn’t suffer financially for it. I don’t know how much it cost because it was a gift. It is beautiful, but it is just a thing. The size of a ring has no bearing whatsoever on the marriage. The people in the marriage are what affects the marriage.
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Married 13 years
In the old days we used big clubs. See a good one whack! Then we had to drag her all the way back to the cave. This wasn’t just a one time deal cause when she regained her strenth back, off she would go again and whack! Then drag her back again. Then we learned they were easily Mesmerized by a certain clear rock. We called that rock a diamond. It’s a whole lot easier to get her back to the cave when she is semi conscious then it is when she’s knocked out cold. The bigger the Diamond the longer she remains in the trance. It’s a Scientific fact. Now you can give her little ones. but you will have to keep replacing them. We haven’t figured out why the magic wears out faster, but it does. That’s another Scientific fact. We have some of the best minds in the World working on a less expensive method that doesn’t involve pulling a groin muscle, but for now this is the best method we got. .
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Engagement rings can get quite expensive and many people focus more on buying one that will impress people rather than remembering that it is supposed to be a symbol of commitment and love between a man and woman.
When I got engaged, I told my wife I had enough money for a down payment on a house or for an engagement ring, but not both. She quickly told me to buy the house and I did. She went without an engagement ring until our 20th anniversary, when I surprized her with one that cost 25k, which I could now afford to buy.
Everything is relative to what a person wants, values, etc. If an expensive ring makes someone happy and there’s enough money to buy it – why not do so? It’s only when other agendas are present (trying to impress people, etc) that things can get a bit out of hand.
Hope this helps!
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http://www.blackonyxrings.org/
http://www.blackonyxnecklace.org/
I had a friend that bought an engagement ring for his girl, and proposed. She said yes, and then that following Monday she made him go to a dealer and trade it in, along with 1000 cash, for a nicer ring. So yes to the one asker, women do ask for engagement rings and it’s selfish and stupid to demand it be an expensive one.
My wife didn’t care. It could have come out of a cracker jack box and she’d been happy. It’s not the ring that matters but what it stands for.
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